Welcome to The Lover’s Mindset, the show that tells you the truth about love. If you are tired of being hurt by love, can’t find love, and are wondering what is love all about, then stay tuned.
I’m Leo Bastien and today we’re talking about a part of you called the ego and how it is affecting our lives and preventing us from living a happier life, a more creative, stressless, and fulfilling life.
What is the ego?
According to Google, it is a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
Psychoanalysis says it is the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity.
The ego is a part of our minds that was created by us because we believe we are separated from Love, and from God. The ego is also part of our mind that is responsible for bodily survival, judging others, war, attack, unhappiness, and a sense of our false self.
Are you aware of that voice or thoughts that are always telling you to fight or flight (run away from) to always find something wrong and to blame someone else for your mistakes? Well, let me tell you this is the workings of the ego.
I believe what people consider as the devil or satan is just the ego. That is my opinion. The ego has no interest in spiritual survival. Your ego doesn’t know love or what it is. It doesn’t care at all.
All the blaming and bad things we do or want to do are all ego-based. Worshiping the body and all the material idols are all ego-based and caused by the ego. The body is the ego’s playground. While for the soul the body is used for communication.
Any threat to the body and the ego kicks into a full fight or flight response because it feels threatened. We are in constant judgment of people, blaming others for our mistakes and even killing because the ego feels threatened. Sounds like the devil’s doings, huh?
Is it possible that most of our lives have been dictated by our ego? Think about it. The ego is present from the time we are a kid. We have given so much power and control to the ego that it will cause us to think about what and whom we think we are. And to believe that you are.
How many times you have said to someone or yourself that is who I am? If you pay attention to what you say it is always as a form of defense. We say it to justify our weaknesses, our shame or to just continue being who we think we are.
If I were to ask you to strip away everything you think you are from a human and ego standpoint and ask, who are you? What would your answer be?
You can’t say you are a mother because you were not always a mother, you can’t say you are a police officer because that is your profession. You can’t say that you are this and that because all those things are just part of your manifested experiences. So, who are you?
I have asked this question to many people, and they all choked at first because all their external projections we stripped away. Now they had to go inside and move past the ego to try to answer.
I have had people who cried and got frustrated because they couldn’t answer that seemingly simple question.
The reason I brought this up is to show you how the majority of our lives are based on our ego-driven thoughts. Let me show you this. Have you ever tried to make a positive change in your life, and it looks like you are ready, and you start making those changes or just getting yourself ready to start then someone, a friend or acquaintance will come with some problem where you will get involved?
That right there is your ego that realized that you were about to move away from it, so it attracted another ego to try to keep you in that state of comfortability and no change stage.
Then you don’t even realize that months have passed, and you never made that change. And if you do realize, then you will notice the battle of thoughts in your mind. Is that what we call procrastination?
The ego is a part of our personality that helps us to define ourselves and our place in the world. It is responsible for our sense of self-esteem, pride, and self-awareness. However, when the ego is too strong, it can have negative effects on our lives.
Here are 5 ways that ego can affect our lives:
- It can make us defensive and resistant to change. When we have a strong ego, we are often unwilling to admit our mistakes or weaknesses. We may also be resistant to new ideas or challenges because we fear that they will threaten our sense of self-importance.
- It can make us competitive and aggressive. We may be constantly trying to prove ourselves to others, or we may be quick to anger or jealousy when someone else succeeds.
- It can make us self-centered and insensitive to others. We may be more focused on our own needs and desires than on the needs of others. We may also be less likely to empathize with others or to put ourselves in their shoes.
- It can lead to anxiety and stress. When we are constantly worried about how we are being perceived by others, or when we are striving for perfection, it can lead to anxiety and stress.
- It can prevent us from learning and growing. When we are too attached to our own ideas and beliefs, we are less likely to be open to new information and experiences. This can prevent us from learning and growing as individuals. And prevents us from learning and growing spiritually.
Of course, not all ego is bad. A healthy ego can help us to be confident and assertive. It can also motivate us to achieve our goals and to live a fulfilling life. However, when the ego is too strong, it can be harmful to our relationships, our careers, and our overall well-being.
If you find that your ego is getting in the way of your happiness and success, there are a few things you can do to manage it. Here are a few tips:
- Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to the present moment without judgment. When you are mindful, you are less likely to get caught up in your thoughts and emotions, which can help you to let go of your ego.
- Be open to feedback. When someone gives you feedback, take it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Don’t take it personally or get defensive.
- Focus on your strengths and weaknesses. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, focus on your strengths and how you can use them to achieve your goals.
- Be compassionate towards yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Don’t beat yourself up when you make a mistake. Instead, learn from it and move on.
The ego is not always easy to move away from, but it is possible. By following these tips, you can learn to live a more balanced and fulfilling life.
Our biggest battle to be aware of is when the ego is dominating and we make an informed decision to be more mindful so that we can live a more joyous life and be less judgmental.
In conclusion, do your best to live your life in the moment of now. Be grateful, be compassionate, and love yourself. Be kind to others and be creative. We are all creators so let us create with our God mind and not our egos.
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